My initial title was “How do you know when it’s time to have a (or another) baby?” But the answer to that is rather obvious- you haven’t been able to see your toes for 5 months, your face has swollen into a perfect sphere, and every 2-3 minutes you’re screaming at pitches only dogs can hear in a desperate attempt to alleviate some of the pain coming from this ‘beautiful’ creature inside your belly. My real question is “How do you know when it’s time to start trying for a/another baby?”
My husband and I had a plan that we’d have our first baby when we were 30. Then suddenly, I get smacked in the head with Baby Fever at 26 and all I can do (think, feel, want, etc) is Baby. Even pregnant women made me gushy. How do you explain this to a guy?
Me: Well yes, honey, I know that was our plan, but you see, now I really want one.
Him: What made you change your mind?
As soon as the pregnancy test was positive, my husband was excited and upon seeing our baby 9 months later, I know he’d never look back. But, as Baby starts to get older, I am noticing signs of an all too familiar illness. The plan all along was to have our kids 2-2.5 years apart, but Baby isn’t even 1 yet and Baby Fever is settling in…hard. It is unfair (not to mention, unproductive) for me to call the shots alone but then how do I make these feelings disappear for another 6 months? I try thinking about all of the inconveniences of pregnancy, but even morning sickness sounds delightful right now. Does this happen to everyone or am I just weak? How did you know it was time? Did your husband agree?