I have mentioned a fair amount of times on the blog that I am married to an amazing man. Not every woman can say that about their husband...including not everyone woman I know. Well, my man is the bee's knees (what a weird saying, no?) and one of the hardest working people I know. He sacrifices so much to provide an amazing life for myself and his ladies and today I know he felt it more than ever so I wanted to just give him a shout out (as he is a devout BBM reader of course) by writing my latest piece about him.
To give you a little background on the amazing Papa J...he is a bi-racial man, who was adopted into a white working class family in upstate NY when he was just born. He graduated at the top of his high school class, put himself through an ivy league college, followed by law school at the same ivy league college, and again graduated at the top of his class. He has worked harder than anyone I know to get to where he is in his field - far beyond most people his age. His current job is very rewarding and very demanding, and he loves what he does, unlike most people in the world. On top of all of his work life success, I can honestly say he is the kindest, most gentle hearted man I have ever met. And everyone that meets him can say nothing but great things about him. Yes, he is that awesome. :)
Because of the demands of his job, his work hours are longer than most, but every day he wakes up with M in the morning, gives her breakfast and plays until it is time for him to "make the donuts." If it is a slow day at work we are able to have a very late dinner after he kisses M goodnight. He also unfortunately works at least one day on most weekends. Needless to say, he misses out on much of the fun and adventures, but tries to be with his family whenever he possibly can.
The past two weeks have been out of the ordinary, with him working until the wee hours of the night and sometimes leaving before M even wakes up in the morning. He had also planned to take off time this week, but unfortunately wasn't able too because of things blowing up at work. I know it kills him to miss out on time with M and I, and today I felt it more than ever.
I am down at my parents summer place, where he had hoped to be but couldn't and after a phone conversation with him at lunch time I could tell he was more upset than usual about missing out on the fun. I had mentioned that M has been in the greatest mood, was laughing it up all during our lunch, and was having so much fun with me and her grandparents...as I had diarrhea of the mouth and was gushing over my great day he was stuck in his downtown office with a days worth of work left to do. His response to my daily report was, "man..." followed by a sigh. I could tell he was a little more defeated than normal.
I know he would do anything he possibly could to be with us right now. I know there is nowhere else he would rather be than with us right now. But alas he is stuck, working hard to provide and incredible life for his family. I can't imagine being in his position...here I am lucky enough to be able to stay home every day with my pretty amazing kid, with another little drama queen on the way, and because of his hard work we are able to go on daily adventures full of fun and excitement (ok some days we just go to Whole Foods, but damn I love it there!)
He works his ass off every day so that M and her sister will have everything he didn't have when he was younger, and want for nothing, pretty much ever. And I get to reap the rewards of his success right along with the girls. I couldn't be more grateful for all of his hard work, but there are some days I hate his job - like when it makes him not able to come home before I am asleep in bed, and leave before I even open my eyes in the morning...which has pretty much been most days the past weeks.
I miss my husband right now, more than I have in a long time. I feel like he is away somewhere, when really he is not far away at all. He is actually able to take tomorrow off - yes I know it is a holiday, but I am shocked when he doesn't have to work weekends and holidays - so I will get to see him for a whole 24 hours and I cannot freaking wait.
I love my husband, and really enjoy spending time with him and can honestly say he is my best friend in the world. We have been together for 12 years, married for 7 next month, and I can seriously say I love him as much as I did when we first fell in love. Have I made you all jealous yet? Good. Ha! I just sometimes wish we had a different life where we lived on a farm in rural New Hampshire, and spent our days together growing our own food, and taking care of animals - is that weird? Actually I wouldn't change a thing about our life, and I have my husband to thank for that every day.
I miss you baby!
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