I watched Sex and the City 2 today. And I kind of wish I could get those nearly 3 hours of my life back. Don't get me wrong, I was obsessed with the series like most 30-something ladies were, but the movies have not done the HBO show justice by any means. I did find that there was one redeeming scene in the movie: when Charlotte and Miranda are sitting at the bar talking about how hard it is to be a mother. But the part that resonated with me is when they say "How do women do it without help? Here's to those women!" Miranda, being a full-time working mother, understandably needs help with her child, and household. But, Charlotte is a full-time mother and still has a full-time nanny...one of my biggest pet peeves.
Now I might be offending some people with this post, but realize this is totally my personal opinion, from my point of view...yada yada. I hope not to offend you, but if I do I am sorry. But here goes...
I don't understand full-time stay at home moms having full-time help. Your job is being a mother, to take care of your kids. I, being a full-time stay at home mother myself, understand the need for personal time, so I totally understand babysitters or part-time help so that you can run errands and get some personal things done, but full-time help? What are mothers doing that they need full-time help, if they don't have a full-time job?
I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it is one of my pet peeves when I see mother's on television having nannies practically raise their children, while they are off gallivanting around the city. Maybe it is because I am reading The Help right now I am getting so fired up about this topic - yes, I know, different time, different place, but I don't understand the whole thing.
I am a stay at home mom. My day revolves around my daughter, and when I have another child, it will revolve around them too. I am able to get errands done - I take Baby M with me wherever I go. Yes, I have to plan ahead to get my haircut, or pedicure, or waxing - I can't just run out and do it whenever I want to, but that is part of being a mother...sacrifice. My life and my husband' s life are very different than before we had children, but we knew what we were getting into the moment we decided we wanted to have kids. Their life would become our life.
Now don't get me wrong. Sometimes I wish I had someone at home with me during the day that I could tag and have them step in the mother role for me. Like today when I was going from hospital to hospital for doctor's appointments, and then came home to get puked on by my daughter like the girl from the exorcist, and when I went to the bathroom to start the bath, she peed all over me. I looked in the mirror at my disheveled self for a minute and teared up because I was so stressed out, and wished my mom lived down the street (or in the same part of the country for that matter) so that she could come over and help me, but she doesn't, so I bucked up and put on my happy face and got on with the day. It is hard to do, but it is a mother's duty...to sing and play when you feel like crying and boozing.
Well, I did have one cocktail tonight after she went to sleep...maybe that is why I am fired up.
That is enough from me...goodnight Mamas.