Friday, April 20, 2012

My Daughter is a Girl!!

I don't know why this bothers the crap out of me, but lately I feel like people out and about are mistaking M for a boy. I get so angry when this happens, because to me, she looks 100% girl. I don't always dress her in pink dresses or put bows in her hair, but I feel like she always looks like a female. Somehow, a lot of other people in this world do not agree.

I am woman, here my Mama roar!
When we were at the Children's Museum last week she was mistaken for a boy twice. She was wearing blue jeans with a striped hoodie sweater that was red, purple, white and blue...with pink sneakers. She was wearing a bright yellow swing coat on top of all this the first time someone called her a "he." I can see how the sweater might go either boy or girl, but I seriously it is pretty girly in real life - especially with the purple in it. Then someone actually called her my "son" when we were up playing with the trucks on the third floor. Something like "looks like her son isn't done playing there so you have to wait your turn..." and of course I was all "my DAUGHTER will be done in a second."

And then yesterday we were at Whole Foods when it happened twice again. The guy giving us our American Cheese at the deli counter asked if "my son" would like to try a slice. My son? Would I dress my son in hot pink sweatpants, a blue t-shirt with a glitter bow on the neckline, a white hoodie with Minnie Mouse on the front and back (including red sparkles) and pink shoes???? Ok - so this guy had some seriously thick glasses, so I can give him a pass, but again I said "my DAUGHTER would love some cheese." The second person was a young girl, who was basically one foot away from M and said "Oh my God, he is so cute!" and I about lost it. I said "SHE is a girl." And the girl of course said she was sorry, but I wanted to punch her in the face.

As a mother, if I saw a child and didn't know for sure whether he or she was a he or she, I would avoid embarrassment at all cost and not even use a gender specific pronoun. But I feel like once the kid gets to 2, it is pretty obvious which sex they are. Of course when they are babies, it is totally acceptable to mistake gender...when it gets to around 2 and you mistake gender, either you are dressing your kid like the opposite gender, or the person who makes the mistake is just an idiot.

Does this happen to anyone else? Does M look like a boy and I just don't see it? Why does this offend me so much when it happens? It offends me even more when it is a mother with kids M's age, or a mother of daughters...those are the ladies that I want to punch in the throat when they call M a boy. If it is an old man, they get a pass, and especially one with thick glasses, which were covering up some googly eyes, like the first guy at Whole Foods.

That is all I have to say about that.


  1. Not only is she a girl, but a BEAUTIFUL girl at that. What the hell is wrong with people?? You just can't fix stupid. That's what it boils down to!

  2. your blog is amazing. new follower!

  3. J - M is gorgeous and to hell with all those boy-sayers. M will probably be a supermodel on the cover of vogue - so plan on posting that cover shot someday and sit back and say 'ha'!